This is the result of Less Crying

Case:"Bang Jul, my father dimanjain discharged mum n (n mami Papi). Until SMP prepared all of my needs. Food, drinks are always a siapin mum. Driver and helper twenty-four hours it was ready to wait on me. I cried a little, then I was immediately filled with the desire mum. Bang my allowance in July do not ask, too much. I like to treat friends at school, and I considered a hero. I then hanging with the wrong friends. Do not be surprised, when I was troubled at school, a friend introduced me to marijuana and immediately stuck. Once I got to know putaw marijuana. That is why I am being treated here "***)Several years ago while studying S2 counseling field, I was working in a practice of mental disorders and addiction clinic in Jakarta for a year. There are about a hundred clients were treated there, and the majority of clients suffering from depression and acute schizophrenia. In addition there are drug addicts in their late 20s being treated separately. These addicts aged 17 to 30 YearsSome of them have treated four to six years. Their parents just leave and pay. Felt unable to handle the child and give full treatment to the clinic. Most of the others cared about 2 months to a year. Once recovered be returned to parents.The phenomenon of spoiled childrenFrom a chat with one of the senior staff there, there is something interesting. Of the counseling staff with the client and his family found some of them are a spoiled child. Exactly a spoiled child. They were born and grew up in families that are, for all their needs met.Some parents acknowledged that they are spoiling the child as a child. Busy work to make them more willing to follow the child. Indulgence as a way to overcome the guilt. At home there are maids and drivers who serve them. Even to school children, to make the drinks were always the mother provides. Lift the bag into the car, and so there is a driver or helper. Akibanya children are not independent.Kindergarten and elementary school when they are relatively rarely cried. Because what they desire are relatively satisfied. (See story above). In primary schools generally do not demand much and the teachers are generally friendly. Even teachers in the classroom is not just one, but there are few who understand them as a child.But the time of entry into junior high, a comfortable atmosphere at home and at primary schools began to disappear. Upon entering the usual age of the child remajalah spoiled easily shaken. Friends began to experience rejection, teasing friends, dimarah teacher in front of many friends when not for PR, etc..When it feels no pressure, easy to stress. Then find a friend vent. The problem is if it gets vent the wrong friends. This is where the beginning starts wrong crowd, and an introduction to drugs such as X in the above cases occur.Due to other indulgences are some kids grow up with low power struggle, and endurance stress less. As a result, children easily depressed when his wish was not achieved. Frustrated and stressed when its value is low and so on. Especially when he saw his parents began a hard and do not like it used to.Delaying the wishes of childrenIn parenting, not every child's wish fulfilled emotion. Much needs to be delayed and partially rejected. When a small child can not understand what it wants and needs. Influence of advertising and friends, often making the child asks her goods or food taste delicious. Parents need to explain here, so that the child understands where he needs, and which he only wanted to have.Since childhood, we guide children to not watching the commercials. Any advertising their exchange rate channel to broadcast TV ads that do not exist. Towards the SMP they are more familiar with the TV channel which little or no advertising (TV cable).When children talk about friends who have this toy and it was, we tried to discuss several things: how important the toy tool. Background of parents, and our own condition. Discuss the principles of beneficial toy and so on. We also teach you what it wants and what it needs.Some of what we consider the child's needs, we are not always immediately bought. We teach children to pray, and wait for us to buy. We teach children that if an expensive item, we also need to save first.There are times when our children cry, get angry grunt. But we let it. Yet weep not make him sick. Once we feel the time to buy, then we encourage them to buy. Usually we give them money to pay to the cashier. So that they know how much money we spend on a toy or item. This is our way of delaying the wishes of children.